If you have tried everything that you can think of to lose weight and have failed perhaps you can look into getting lap band surgery.  I like many out there have really struggled to lose the weight.  I have tried the gym, I have tried pills and diets, and even drugs from the doctor, meal replacement, you name it I have tried it.

I am currently trying to do the research for the lap band to see if this is something that I may be willing to give a go.  It is really not about looking good, or sexy or thin - it is for me to lose weight so that maybe I could fall pregnant.   Also I just want to be able to feel fit again and do the things that I can’t do now.

So if you need information for Australians please look to the links above and below and talk to your local doctor about it, perhaps go to a seminar.  For people in Melbourne please refer to the link for information and locations.

There are also support groups available to you before and after your surgery which will assist you in handling the process emotionally.  We all need help sometimes to weigh through our thoughts and feelings, after all you would be having a surgery and I am sure it won’t be the most pleasant thing you deal with in your life. 

Good luck to you all and if anyone has a story about their surgery please email me or comment at the end of this post.

I have noticed that most of my readers have been following my progress or lack of in getting pregnant. Well I am still not pregnant.  It has been 4 years since we have been trying to have a baby and those 4 years have been really tough to handle, especially for me.

I have been to specialists and read articles on the subject and I am more confused now than I ever was.  Honestly - eat this, don’t eat that, stop smoking, and lose weight blah blah blah.  I really can’t take it anymore.

What is a girl to do to get the correct information about Poly cystic ovary disease?  I have never been as frustrated in my life as I am now, all the things we should do to get pregnant and other women fall pregnant just by looking at their partner.

I really feel as though all my efforts to change my habits and perhaps get healthy enough to fall pregnant have been in vain. It is just not working for me and I am just about to give up altogether.  Then deal with the fact that I will never be a mother.

Do not ask me how I will do this, but I have to try to accept it and move on.  I am sick to death of all the stress I have been under because of it, and just generally feeling awful. I just want to be happy again minus all the pressure.

You know what I am talking about, the times when people that haven’t seen you in a long time ask, so how long have you been married?  Oh, shouldn’t you have kids by now? The questions people ask you are ridiculous.  It really @#**#$ me off and very hurtful because then you feel even more like a failure because then you have to explain your situation.

So you ask how I feel now, well I don’t feel very good, my health isn’t where I want it to be, and emotionally I am devastated.  Trying very hard just to keep myself from getting depressed about it, and stop crying.  I will be ok, but I don’t know when I will be happy again.

As many of you know I have been ill on and off since probably March 2008.  This has all taken its toll on me and I can happily report I am on the mend now and working out again.  I did however feel that I should tell you all what I have gone through so that maybe if anyone else has any health issues they are struggling with can perhaps be helped to know that sometimes there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Firstly, back in March I was on fertility drugs for around 3 months, they made me feel sick all the time and the bloating was unbearable.  It was a waste of time as I never got pregnant.  A month or so later I had a very bad chest infection which had me off work and then gym for a month.

Then when I got better I started to have the pains in the side and back and again was going to the gym one day then again one day the next week and so on.  After awhile I ended up having a sever attack and went to the doctor whom did tests and then told me I had gall stones and that my gall bladder had to be removed.

I suffered with the pain for several months before actually going in for the operation.  Then once I had the operation the gall stone pain stopped but was replaced with recovering from the cuts (four of them) on my stomach area.  The pain was pretty bad afterwards and I was unable to go to the gym again for 3 months.  I guess on some people recovery is different.

Once I recovered properly I went back to the gym however you would never guess what happened to me then, yes you guessed it I ended up injuring my feet from starting vigorous exercise over the months and it became so painful that I was unable to do any classes as I was in a lot of pain and could barely stand. 

The last accident I had is when I went away in March 2009 where I slipped in the shower; my legs were hurt and are only now starting to become better.  I hope that is the last of my health issues but to be honest I won’t hold my breath. 

My little sister just gave birth to a healthy baby boy.  Don’t have all the details yet because I am at work, but I got a photo of him.  He is very cute. 

Will let you know all the details when I have them.

Babies are wonderful!

On my camping trip I had a nasty fall in the shower block, one leg went inside the shower and the other out the door and I hit the back of my leg on the step and stretched my muscle so much that I am still having trouble walking.  What was supposed to be a nice sun filled holiday turned out to be the most painful holiday I could have had.

The worst part was that we camped in tents and had to climb up a hill to get to the toilets.  What a killer.  I will be honest with you I think my gym days are numbered.  I have had so many things go wrong with my health or injuries that I am about to give up on the whole thing.

It is difficult to keep getting knocked down and then trying to pick yourself up again, I just am not coping with this at all.  I don’t feel myself and my determination is going down hill.  I am going to the gym tonight but don’t know what I will be able to do with my leg so painful.  I will once again try and see what happens.

I don’t feel very good at all.  I have been feeling off colour anyway for around 3 weeks now, not sure what is the matter but I have no energy to even go to work.  Feel like falling asleep at the desk. I have lost that spark I used to have and don’t know how to get it back.

Any suggestions people?  Please write in, I would love to hear what you have to say.

There has been a study made regarding overweight mums to be and their babies being prone to being overweight themselves when they grow up.  This is alarming to think that you could potentially be making your child unhealthy by you being overweight.

Children born to overweight women are prone to Diabetes and lipid metabolic disorders.  These are just some of the things that can go wrong with your child from being overweight. 

We also have to remember that children are like sponges and as they grow they really do take in our values, as well as our habits.  So I guess this post is not about telling overweight mothers off, but rather giving them some solutions to prevent this from occurring. 

We all need help from time to time with ideas of how to eat healthy, exercise; it’s not all about losing weight.  However, if you eat right and exercise as the old saying goes you will get weight loss.

Here are a few things we can do as parents to minimize the effect of our obesity on our children.

• Bike riding
• Fruit as snacks
• Fit Pod
• Parks
• Zoo
• Plan Shopping for healthy kids lunches for the week
• Organise more outdoor activities rather then
• Kidspot for all the recipes you will need for kids
• Wii Fit great video games to keep the whole family fit and it’s fun

As you can see from the list above we can all do something fun, and be active as well as find a lot of information regarding children’s health and wellbeing.  If you just read the article above you are entitled to feel terrible if you are an obese mum to be, however they never tell you in these articles that there are percentages that this happens to, and not every child being born to an obese mother.

There is always an answer to everything and I am sure that every mother whether they are big or small worry whilst pregnant about their child, and we don’t need these medical experts telling us something we already fear ourselves.  There is a way out and you can do a lot of activities with your child when they grow up that will keep them fit and healthy and who knows you may yourself lose a few pounds as well.

My apologies for not posting more during January, it has been one of those months.  And you guessed it I became ill again - yes again, also I sprained my foot.  So you ask why I am feeling down, well let me tell you.  I am feeling down because my efforts at the Gym have not been as productive as I would have liked, and my food intake has been atrocious. 

There have been that many setbacks to my progress that I am slowly losing faith, in myself and in my ability to once again start to make progress.  I know you have heard it all before and I agree it sounds like a cop out.  

I have just been agonizing over it, blaming myself, blaming others.  It is honestly a vicious circle.  The good news to this whole thing is that I finally got my period.  And it was actually under two months that I had it last.  I think the Gym is helping me with that.

My fitness has improved quite a bit, however my weight is the same - well from what I can gather.  It is a terrible thing to always fall ill or injure yourself and not be able to do the things you would like for example - the Gym.  I feel like I am on a roller coaster.

The one person that has been very encouraging is Julie my personal trainer, she said that I am doing really well, but even though she says that I don’t feel that way.  I even got that frustrated with my foot that I did the step up; I made it higher and hurt my foot again.  I really kicked myself over that stupidity.

I was so impatient that I stuffed myself up.  I guess I just keep trying and do my best not to hurt myself or get sick and I should be fine right?  If anyone knows a good place to go online to create a meal plan for the week, please leave your comments with the details. 

You know I feel a lot better now that I talked to you all about this; sometimes getting stuff off your chest really helps.  Please stay tuned as I am working on something that you will really enjoy.

Hello All

I wish you all a Happy New Year 2009 and hope that the next 12 months will be filled with excitement and happiness.

I know that I will be challenging myself in ways that I didn’t think that I would even consider.  There it is, new things to come.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Love Kat

Photo credit: Danusunt

There are many reasons why a woman doesn’t end up having children.  My situation is only one of them, along with the other physical reasons.  Sometimes it could be your career, or you just waited so long and when you tried it never happened.  Then there are those women who just don’t want to have children, and then there are woman who never found the right person to father their children.

What I am talking about is being childless.  When a couple get’s married and have been married for more than two years and there are no children, people often are insensitive to those couples that don’t have children yet.  There are many reasons why people don’t have children as I have stated before but what people don’t realise is that there are deep emotions going on in a woman’s and man’s mind when struggling through the fact they don’t have children.

A couple often feels ostracized from their friends and family whom have children, you find that you stop putting yourself in that situation of being around couples with children.  You also don’t get invited to these functions as much because you don’t have children.  After all these occasions are usually children’s parties, with parents getting together to praise their children, except you don’t so you feel like you are not part of the group.

You also don’t want to put yourself through a day or night of parents telling you how wonderful their children are.  You don’t want to hear it, quite frankly.  This only makes you more depressed and that longing feeling just grows as is the case with couples that want children but don’t or can’t have them.  It is a little different with your sibling’s kids, but none the less it only makes you feel like you are a failure.  That is how I feel. 

You go on to ask those critical questions like - why can’t I give birth?  And why is it that my sister can?  That realization comes from men and women who can’t fall pregnant physically, or others whom have just waited too long.  Couples who don’t want kids don’t feel this way.

For those who don’t want children they face a different dilemma, that is people criticizing them and telling them that they should have kids now because they might regret it.  So essentially you are being made to feel as though you are selfish or that there is something wrong with you for not wanting them.

The truth is, parenting isn’t for everyone, when you don’t have kids you don’t feel that pressure on you to think of kids before making decisions in your life. For example:

• Come and go as you please
• Stay out late if you want to
• Save money
• Go on trips more often
• Have a nice home with less clutter
• Be carefree
• Work full time
• Have parties with loud music
• Give more attention to other people’s kids and buy great presents
• Financial security
• General happiness
• TIME for yourself
• Stress free (children often give you stress)
• Less arguments with your spouse (usually over children)

An interesting article by washingtonpost.com on the subject was fascinating because it had the point of view of someone whom didn’t want children.  Also, there was Childless not by choice a great forum for all to talk about their feelings and experiences, a great support network.   There are many support groups for those of us that cannot have children, and there are many forums for which you can participate in.  My favorite place to search is Google.  

Photo credit: Sandiegofit.com

You all are aware that I have been going to the Gym and it occurred to me that I don’t have anything nice to wear for my work outs.  I have been drugging around in my track suits.  Not a good look I am sure, and so I decided to check out what we curvy ladies have out there in the form of Active Wear.

Well look what I have found ladies, these items are fantastic.  No more looking frumpy at the gym or when you are exercising, now you can look and feel great whilst doing something good for yourself.

At Danskin you can find many items to feel sporty in and they are right here in Australia.   Check out their range and the great thing is you can buy online.  EASY!  I also found at Sandiegofit.com some great items for the plus size woman.    They also ship internationally so anyone can purchase their clothing.

Now when you decide to join a gym or do any kind of sport you will be dressed for success.   Happy shopping ladies and let me know what you think if you do purchase any of these items.